A lot of people, a few heart broken Devdas friends from different walks of life, a few confused lovebirds and a sensible fellow blogger (Thauseef), inspire this one.
Romance/Love – these are probably the most written about topics after sex. Although these are the most basic of human needs and the most well understood of the lot, the first in the list – Food 🙂
You turn around in the mundane city and you see people walking around hand in hand, cosy and comfortable in a crowd of over a hundred, longing to hear the voice of the “boy/girl friend” and the likes. It was interesting to note that if any one of these people is asked what is it like to be in, as they would prefer to call it, Love, none of them can come up with an answer. They would mostly come up with the clichéd you have to experience it to know what it is. I wonder what Keats/Shakespeare/Byron/Coleridge were thinking when they wrote so much on the topic!!! Of course, they were gifted with education and the art of expressing themselves with words.
Then, it struck me. The people I have been observing are mostly people who would go in with what is in fashion. In other words, if I can convince the lot, that the sun sets on the east and people who believe that are the ones who are cool, well I can prove a lot of physicists wrong. 😛
Going by that fact these lame lovers have done nothing but go with the flow… followed the “herd mentality” and fallen in “love”. Sometime ago, this rather good friend gave me advice… “You should start seeing someone, you know. It helps you make wiser decisions” Must say that helped a lot. Taking it in the literal sense, I ended making lesser fashion faux pas and not making a fool of myself.
Wonder why the concept of love is so misunderstood. It is after all something obscure and beyond understanding of many. Love these days seems to be more complex. It is supposed to, from my various readings, make everything around seem more beautiful, everything is supposed to be making more sense now than ever, make you the better being you always wanted to be. But now, from observations, people seem more kept to themselves, confused, nonchalant about the others or the surroundings etc. Does Love require to be redefined? Or has Love Evolved with time?
When my love swears that she is made of truth,
I do believe her, though I know she lies,
That she might think me some untutor’d youth,
Unlearned in the world’s false subtleties
Thus vainly thinking that she thinks me young.
Although she knows my days are past the best,
Simply I credit her false-speaking tongue:
On both sides thus is simple truth supprest.
But wherefore says she not she is unjust ?
And wherefore say not I that I am old ?
O, love’s best habit is in seeming trust,
And age in love loves not to have years told:
Therefore I lie with her, and she with me,
And in our faults by lies we flatter’d be. – Shakespeare
Something that is precisely missing from the modern day relationship. Actually, any relationship, any day without the basis of trust will nevertheless end in the most painful manner. After all man is one of the most insecure beings ever and trust does not come easy. That could possibly be the reason for the umpteen number of people cribbing about breakups and relationships that just wouldn’t work. I see an uproar coming up.
And for all those who have been there and done that, and can relate to love/romance and everything beautiful that comes as add-ons, you should definitely be able to correlate to this.
When age chills the blood, when our pleasures are past —
For years fleet away with the wings of the dove —
The dearest remembrance will still be the last,
Our sweetest memorial the first kiss of love. – Byron.
First Love or True Love or whatever it is that you call it… makes you realise how beautiful the world actually is and after that no matter what, you jsut dont want to let it go – You remain forever in Love. 🙂