Here is the prompt for today!
You’re in the middle of a terrible argument, and everyone
turns to you to help resolve it. How do you respond? How
do you react to conflict?
Oh… This one turned up like some sort of preordained topic. Just last night there was a fight at home. Words were exchanged and tears were shed. No matter what, bad behaviour cannot be excused. Tantrums, temper and general irritability can be ignored, but shrewish behaviour is an absolute no-no. What comes across as shrewishness now will evolve to become bullying and manipulation later. Best to nip it in the bud.
Well, enough said about that. Let’s get back to being the middle of the altercation. Technically I wasn’t even present when it started off. I was hanging out in my favourite place – the bathroom. I did hear my people, voices raised. Cut to a half hour later, no issue has been resolved and words are being aimed at me. Sigh! All I did was sit around crocheting.
Not one to let things go in responded, I had to give as good as I got, didn’t I! Irresponsibility, no matter how insignificant the issue has to be owned. I am not going to sit around taking the blame while someone else didn’t do something they were supposed to.
But, the crux of the issue is that not everyone listens. Actually, one can almost say listening is such a non-existent skill with most people. And if you point out their faux pas or a mistake, then what little listening capability was there, ceases to exist. It is absolutely astonishing when it happens. People who could tune in with both ears open to gossip, conveniently tune off when confronted. Even worse are those who minimise input and maximise output. They shut their ears and open their mouth, volubility seemingly absolving them. But no. I am a dog with a bone. And in the latter case, I wait. Maybe a few days or a few years, I will wait to get even. I realise this makes me sound like a horrible person, I agree. I am a horrid person because I refuse to put up with nonsense from people.
This is how I react to conflict. I either let them spill their guts to each other or in case of being involved, I become a terrible person. And to resolve the conflict – silence is the best option when no one listens. Because, in the end, actions speak louder than words!